Top twenty mythbusters about Family Law
In very general terms here are a few misconceptions about the way that Family Law works which are based on my experiences of over seventeen years.
- The law is not an ass. It is a very complex set of rules which might not suit you and might seem odd, but the law is the law.
- How the law is interpreted and used by Judges is not anti-men, and it is not stuck up posh people looking down their noses at the rest of us.
- Representing yourself is not better than having legal representation. You might think you know the law better than someone with a law degree that works every day in courts, but you risk ending up with the view that number one above is true.
- A Divorce is the process of terminating your marriage. It is not the same as a financial application which is a totally separate process.
- If you walk away from your toddler expecting them to come and find you for a euphoric reunion when they are 16, why would they, they don’t even know you other than you were the person that turned your back on them when they needed you.
- Child maintenance is not related to whether you see your child or not. It is law and must be paid.
- A Judge will not disregard everything you say, unless you have got yourself in such a mess because of number three above that nothing you say is even relevant.
- Continually repeating (or denying) something does not make it true.
- Just because you think something, does not make it true.
- Writing a diary and using the diary as your evidence does not make it true.
- Unless you are a psychologist or a psychiatrist, claiming that your ex is a paranoid Schizophrenic will butter no parsnips.
- Raising your voice to make a point does not make it true.
- Transferring your money to a friend or relative does not mean it won’t be used by the court when dividing money.
- Just because you were not married does not mean you cannot claim against their property when you separate.
- Hiring a hit man to deal with your ex is not a clever idea.
- Running away with your children and disappearing does not work, you will be found, usually within a week or so.
- Disappearing abroad with your children and not telling their mother/father does not mean that you will be left alone. It is a criminal offence and you will be brought back to face justice.
- Just because the Police did not take you to court for an offence does not mean that the family Court will not find you guilty.
- If you have been a victim of domestic violence and not reported it, it does not mean it did not happen or that the court will not believe you.
- If you take drugs, smoke weed, are an alcoholic or are homeless, it does not mean that you cannot see your children.
And one more for luck….
- If you have a court order which is not being followed, you can get it dealt with.
All these are more are explained in the Family Law training days that I am holding throughout the Autumn. It is not too late to book your place on the course or use them to train to help other people in court.
|London||Children Cases||14 September 2019|
|Manchester||Children Cases||28 September 2019|
|London||Financial Cases||12 October 2019|
|Manchester||Financial Cases||26 October 2019|
|London||Final Hearings||9 November 2019|
|Manchester||Final Hearings||23 November 2019|